One of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth and manifesting is the idea that “you create your reality.” Or that your beliefs are responsible for the outcomes in your life.
For many, this can lead to guilt or self-blame. You may think, “If I’m manifesting this, it must be my fault.” However, the manifesting principle is not about blame. It is about awareness, choice, and empowerment. Understanding the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and the Law of Attraction can remove this mistake.
The Role of The Reticular Activating System (RAS) In Manifesting Your Desires
The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is a part of the brain that filters information. Its job is to help us focus on what’s most relevant. Every day, we’re exposed to an overwhelming amount of stimuli. It is the job of the RAS to guide our attention to what aligns with our beliefs, priorities, and concerns. If you’ve ever bought a new car and suddenly noticed that same model everywhere, you’ve experienced the RAS at work.
When we hold certain beliefs—positive or negative—the RAS naturally filters our reality to align with those beliefs. This doesn’t mean you’re at fault for everything that happens. Instead, it shows that what you focus on tends to stand out. If you believe that opportunities are limited, your brain is more likely to filter out possibilities, even when they’re present. On the other hand, if you believe in abundance, your brain will highlight opportunities that support that belief.
The key takeaway? The RAS isn’t about blame; it’s about focus. It simply brings to the forefront what your mind deems important. If you shift your focus to new beliefs, your perception of reality shifts too.
The Law of Attraction: Drawing What You Focus On
The Law of Attraction is based on the idea that “like attracts like.” The energy you project into the world through your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs will draw similar energy back to you. While this can be empowering, it’s important to understand that it’s not meant to suggest you’re to blame for any negative experiences in your life.
Think of the Law of Attraction as a tool that helps you shape your experience, rather than a judgment on your worth or actions. It encourages you to become aware of your thoughts and how they influence the energy you send into the world. The goal isn’t to make you feel responsible for every difficulty you encounter. Rather it helps you recognize that by shifting your inner world, you can influence what shows up in your outer world.
This law works in tandem with the Reticular Activating System: when you set an intention or focus on a specific goal, your mind and energy naturally align with that outcome. It’s not about fault or blame—it’s about learning how to work with the flow of energy and thought patterns to co-create your desired reality.
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Beliefs and Manifesting: Empowerment, Not Blame
At the core of manifestation is the power of belief. What you believe about yourself, your life, and your potential can shape your reality, but this isn’t a call to blame yourself when things don’t go as planned. Instead, it’s an invitation to become aware of the limiting beliefs and how they influence your experiences.
Beliefs are often formed subconsciously, and influenced by past experiences, culture, and conditioning. Many of us carry limiting beliefs without even realizing it. Manifestation is about becoming conscious of these beliefs and choosing to rewrite them. When you change your internal narrative, you can shift the patterns in your life.
Rather than seeing this as a burden of responsibility, it’s an opportunity to step into empowerment. Yes, your beliefs have power, but they are also adaptable. You can change what you believe. Furthermore, you are certainly not to blame for everything in your life. Instead, you have the freedom to change your beliefs and, by doing so, change your reality.
Moving Beyond Blame to Self-Compassion
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if your beliefs manifest your reality, you must be at fault for anything negative. But this interpretation misses the point of the Law of Attraction and the way your mind works. Life is complex, with many factors,—both internal and external,—that influence your experience.
Understanding how your beliefs, the RAS, and the Law of Attraction work, empowers you with tools for growth. In addition, rather than blaming yourself for past outcomes, you can approach this knowledge with self-compassion. It helps you recognize that you are always growing and evolving and that learning how to harness the power of your thoughts and beliefs is part of that journey.
Conclusion: Manifesting with Power
The idea that you “create your reality” is often misunderstood as casting blame, but at its core, it’s a principle of empowerment. The Reticular Activating System, the Law of Attraction, and the power of your beliefs allow you to take an active role in shaping your life—not to be burdened with fault, but to be uplifted with possibility.
By shifting your focus, becoming aware of your thoughts, and consciously choosing new beliefs, you can begin manifesting the life you truly desire. Let go of self-blame and embrace the empowerment that comes from knowing you can co-create your reality. It’s not about being perfect or controlling everything—it’s about aligning with your true potential and trusting your growth process.
Now that you understand the importance of your beliefs, wouldn’t it be helpful to know exactly what your limiting beliefs are? Searching the internet or working with coaches/therapists you will discover at least sixty common limiting beliefs. That is overwhelming and the cause of so many people staying stuck. Imagine knowing the core five themes unique to you and the source of your struggles. The Authentic Success Blueprint provides you with this insight and more!
Leanne Giavedoni is a Transformation Coach and Spiritual Mentor helping you uncover the root of your challenges, break free from negative patterns, and navigate life’s transitions with clarity, purpose, and ease. Through her intuitive approach, she bridges traditional and metaphysical concepts to guide you toward a life of alignment, fulfillment, and lasting success.